Bucket Lists? Every year!

“If we don’t dare live now, when will we? As a risk taker, my mind is constantly seeking to explore & taste the various flavors of life. It is my desire to experience & optimistically live life during my stay here on earth that motivate my risk taking behaviors & life achievements. Whereas some people have one lifetime bucket list, I prepare yearly bucket lists filled with dreams, goals & risks to meet. With determination, courage & persistent motivation, many of my dreams/passions/goals have been successfully achieved/realized. With me, it’s simple. If I can think it, I can therefore do it! Needless to say, some exceptions apply… But I firmly believe that “once we accept our limits, we go beyond them” – Albert Einstein.

So what do my bucket lists really look like? Anything along the lines of: pursuing a higher education, travelling to new destinations, getting involved in organizations, self-set goals with my passions for photography, videography, composing songs, adrenaline rush activities & more… As seen in the picture above, skydiving appeared on my 2010 bucket list, a fairly long list which also included items such as Bungee jumping & graduating with a Bachelor’s degree. But why I am writing a post about skydiving, risks & changes? After all, I jumped & flew off of a plane 2 years ago!

Risks & Changes?
Adrenaline, dangerous, amazing, flying, freedom, best feeling in my life… Those are few of the plethora of words that I can use to describe diving into the sky. I loved it so much that yes, I would do it again & again (in different countries). It is the feeling of freedom & being on top of the world that makes this activity incomparably fascinating. The best part: feeling your heart race at the opening of the plane’s door & having 5 seconds to throw your body in a void, in a humongous world of space standing 12 000ft above! Those who have skydived will understand & if you haven’t, I highly recommend you try it to understand!

Interestingly, making small changes or even taking non life threatening risks may have the same effect on some people. Some embrace changes while others cannot tolerate such rush feeling and therefore fear & avoid it. Everyone is different & so is everyone’s perspective & reaction when facing the antonyms to certainty & persistence. But taking a risk is a change & some changes do involve risks! Both are linked & I personally think that the person who fears risks may also be the person who will prefer remaining in his or her comfort zone & routines. It’s just another way of seeing things!

So, why this post today? Why May 2012? Well, I introduced you to my skydiving experience today not only because it’s been almost exactly 2 years but also because it was my biggest risk taken up to date. I conjugate “was” because May 2012, I went beyond the risks of diving in the sky. For the 1st time, I exceeded the limits & mixed a major risk with a permanent life time change!

With time, I add more items to my lists, set higher goals & go somehow riskier. For those who have been following me on different social platforms, whether interactively or silently, may have an idea about my most recently accomplished goal. I must admit that this lifetime change was/is truly riskier than skydiving in so many ways such as: duration, permanence, life threatening level… Adrenaline rush? Yes! Even more than jumping from a plane. My heart was excited & racing of eagerness & joy. I was extremely happy before & after even if this activity did involve some pain & discomfort. Pain & discomfort? How can this mean pleasure & be compared to skydiving? You may be saying to yourself: But what is she talking about? What did she do now? Well, let me put it this way, I dared make a change that will positively & permanently increase, in an exponential manner, my approach to life & myself (even more than now, if imaginable). Whereas skydiving is an euphoric feeling, lasting 1-2minutes, the change in question has/will create long lasting euphoria. No matter where I am, it will follow me & this for as long as I live. “It” fits perfectly with my definition of liveuphoria! For more details about this exciting new journey, which is still in progress, come back & visit my website/blog or subscribe/follow me to receive an email notification when published :)

For now, I leave you with the links to my Skydiving video on my Youtube channel & the Instagram link to my picture. & remember, “we only live once, but if we live it right, once is enough” – Gary Ryan Blair  So, dare live life, because no risks, no life!

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Instagram: @liveuphoria,  http://instagr.am/p/LIWYtJifj9/
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Make your day beautiful!

Always, if …

No matter where I go, whether random or not, I often meet people & speak with them. It’s simply part of my extraversion & openness personality traits. I feel comfortable socializing or discussing with strangers who later become acquaintances & sometimes even friends. But why? What makes me do so? My persistent desire to learn, my cosmopolitan outlook about life & my sociable & strong verbal communication skills motivate my behavior. Everyone is so unique & it is beautiful to discover the beauty of such individual differences. My discussions with “short term” strangers are always positive as I ensure that the optimistic flow of our interactions is maintained. People love talking about themselves & their life experiences & I simply love listening & asking questions. It’s astonishing how they become so quickly interested to share their life stories to the point that they feel free & comfortable to speak to me as they probably would with a close friend. Sharing happy thoughts, ideas or offering an optimistic way to see things, is the least I can do to make sure that my trustworthiness is transparent & my happiness is contagious.

 My encounter with Sylvain at the coffee shop was completely random, brief but interesting.

To conclude, I personally think that; you can always know who you’ll meet if you truly want to know, if you truly want to meet & if the 1st words, you speak! :)

More stories & pictures to be shared…
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Art exhibition by Ghada Amer

Imagine entering into an art exhibition and being surrounded by canvases featuring a large variety of painted pornographic images of naked females. Imagine a painting/embroidery depicting one or many women masturbating and other images of oral sex occurring between 2 women. Finally, imagine Snow white and/or Cinderella posing in a frame surrounded with such provocatively nude women. Strange? Disturbing? Interesting? Sexy? Every person may react differently to Ghada Amer’s 2012 art exhibition at the Musée d’art contemporain de Montréal. Our gender, age, sexual orientation, religion & many more aspects of our identities can play a role in influencing our perceptions, emotions and attitudes towards Amer’s recent artwork!

How does this relate to an anthropology of consumption marketing course? As discussed in class, consuming is about “using” what others have produced. Applied in this context, if Ghada Amer is the producer of art, then we are the consumers of it. We not only consume her artistic creation but also interpret it. And since each and every single one of us is different, so are our interpretations. This leads to various possibilities in seeing and understanding the meaning behind what we consume of it. The following analysis will emphasize particularly on her sexual artwork, which combines paintings with her artisanal touch of embroidery. This reflection aims to provide the reader with possible ways of interpreting the message, whether intentional or not, that she may be sending to her public, whether they are consciously aware of it or not.

Her technique: Ghada Amer’ specialty consists of embroidery & painting blended together. What distinguishes her painting form others is the thread sewed on the painting itself, adding color to the image, creating various reliefs and also giving it a subliminal or illusory touch. But does her sewing/embroidery technique have a transcending meaning? What could possibly be symbolized with the merge of these 2 artistic techniques? Throughout history, whereas sewing has primarily been a female activity/work, the field of painting has been dominated by males such as renowned painters Leonardo daVinci, Monet & Picasso. The combination of her techniques may be perceived as bringing together, in one image, males and females. This approach may be a symbolic representation of gender equality in the context of art and of life in general.

Pleasure and love? From Cinderella, to beauty, to snowhite, many of Amer’s art include images of these Walt Disney’s fairytale princesses. But it’s not all! What makes those princesses unique is the fact that naked and erotic female bodies surround them. In fact, most of the frames in Ghada Amer’s exhibition present the consumer to an enormous number of relatively similar looking, nude women posing or performing a sexual act. While some are masturbating, other women are being sexually pleased by other women through oral sex. This said, how is this female artist communicating her “pleasure and love” exhibition’s theme?

Happily ever after? Most girls dream or fantasize about falling in love with a charming prince and living happily ever after. Does this dream or fantasy really exist or is it surreal? Amer chose to use fairytales as symbols of love. On one side, if an idealistic person believes that such love exists, then he or she may interpret it as a wonderful magical representation. On the other side, in reality, such love stories exist only in Walt Disney’s fantasy world or in a girl’s dreamy mind. Depending on one’s perceptions and definitions of love, the message that this artist is sending can largely vary. My personal opinion? Since fairytales obviously don’t exist, and since she is representing love with princesses in fairy tales, then this means that love is just a dream and that it does not exist!

As previously mentioned, she does not show Disney’s princesses alone. Rather, she surrounds them by few or many nude female bodies, which significantly differentiates her work from any other producer of art. Before proceeding with this innocent and pornographic content combination, let’s explore her particular “female sexuality universe”.

Pleased ever after? Interestingly, the source of pleasure that she is conveying is sexual pleasure. Many of her canvases illustrate female bodies, naked or almost naked, positioned in a very erotic way. In other of her work, ladies have one of their hands or the lips of another woman on their private body parts. Some are seen as using a sex object to satisfy their sexual needs and desires. Her theme of pleasure truly expresses itself in their facial expressions, with most having their mouth partially opened, and if they have their eyes opened, we can read satisfaction through their gaze. Can one say that pleasure in the female world is only limited to self-pleasure and lesbian acts? Interestingly, not one man is to be found in her art exhibition. Surprising or not surprising? Why did she exclude any sexual activity involving men and women together? Wouldn’t that also fit with the concept of pleasure? A new door of possible interpretation opens.

As written in the Magazine of the Musée d’art contemporain de Montréal, “some of her iconographic references reveal women’s bodies as they are displayed for a heterosexual male audience”. From a female producer to male consumers? Reading this sentence has caused my train of thoughts and questions to shift. Ghada Amer’s exhibition, intended to a masculine public, carries on other powerful meanings. Heterosexual men enjoy and can be aroused while looking at seductive and sexually active women. Taking this to another more implicitly complex level, could her message be that we, women, seek pleasure and can satisfy ourselves without the presence of men? Could we, as consumers, interpret her work as conveying the independence of women from men and reinforce gender equality as previously discussed? Is it a trace of feminism?

After closely observing her phenomenal images, it became clearer to me that sexual pleasure is a context through which she seeks to spread the empowerment and rights of women. Experimenting one’s sexuality should not be gender specific. In many cultures, such subject is taboo. While many religions prohibit sexual freedom, others perceive it as something mundane in western popular culture. Exposing a masculine population to such provocative images can play multiple roles. After reading that Ghada Amer was raised in an Egyptian Muslim family, I wonder if such representation of pleasure are not her repressed feelings transcended via imagery. Through this pornographic context she is communicating the desire for females to escape from culture and religion “boundaries” and further explore, listen and fall in love with their bodies. Shouldn’t every woman love her body and express or satisfy herself free from prejudice, free from discrimination and free from the sinful label, which can be attached to it? If pleasure means peace with self, then I personally believe that her “pleasure and love” theme can be to some extent synonymous to “peace and love”!

Innocence and sins? So far, the analysis has attempted to understand pleasure and love separately. Drawing back to a topic briefly introduced earlier, while pleasure (female bodies) appeared on canvas of their own, princesses only appeared in the foreground of a not easily noticeable background filled with pornographic content. Raising another question, does love’s symbolic message meaning change when “pleasure and love” are combined? I must admit that I was bewildered when I 1st saw this painting/embroidery. Disney and porn? Innocence and sins? Dreams and reality? Pleasure and love? Is the position of the naked bodies drawn near the heart or mind of the princesses used to reflect that every woman, even in fairy tales, have a dirty and sexual side of them? If yes, then this image can be interpreted as the oppression versus expression of sexual desires! Amer is trying to communicate that a woman is not expected or is prohibited by her culture to overtly express herself. Furthermore, not because ladies are not expected to talk or act upon their sexual impulse does not mean that sexual fantasies are dormant.

Final thoughts: As explored at the beginning of this analysis, consuming is about “using” what others have produced, in this case, the visual art of Ghada Amer. Other themes such as sex consumption (porn, prostitution) were not addressed given the scope of this analysis. From those that were addressed, here is a list of the “meanings” that I have consumed through my interpretations of her wonderfully creative and daring art exhibition: Visual and mental imagery as one component of hedonic consumption

  • A permissive attitude towards female’s sex needs and desires
  • A woman should appreciate and love her body
  • Freedom of sexual expression
  •  The importance of gender equality & gender roles in every domain in life, including art
  • The mix of ideas, perspectives, attitudes and images through art
  • The paradox between innocence and so called sins
  •  “Everything has beauty but not everyone sees it” – Confucius

Pictures source: Google images