“Try to find your own oasis“, George concluded.
Oasis? As per the free online dictionary, Oasis means “a place or state of peace, safety, or happiness in the midst of trouble or difficulty”. After a discussion with George over many subjects on April 24th, our topics revolved around our present & future goals, our mutually shared desire for travelling, & around our overall happiness. The following depicts a small portion of our interaction fitted into an interview-like format while leaving the flow of our discussion & the words said in their original or pristine state. Prior to exploring our communication journey, allow me to introduce my dear friend.
About Him: George is a 27 years old man who graduated from the John Molson School of Business at Concordia University. He has been working as an inside sales executive for 2 years and a half with a company when things recently changed! Indeed, George recently took a risk, the risk to leave his current position for luck of excitement. Fascinated with learning and speaking more than 5 languages, passionate & motivated to frequently travel & explore the world, today, George decides to take on a new journey to explore the world of opportunities! Below, you will find my questions, his answers!
Happiness? What is it for you?
“It is something that brings you to a zenith. It’s like an orgasm of emotions.”
Orgasm of emotions? Interesting! What makes you reach such orgasm of emotions?
“Happy thoughts, positive energy & being with people you care. It’s also possible through exploration”.
What was/is one the happiest moment in your life & why?
“When I felt salty water again for the first time in 10 years. It was like revisiting my youth. A time where one has no responsibilities, no worries”.
Tell me something; anything linked to our current topic
“My mind always travels” he answers with a smile.
“Even if I’m here now, I’m always in a foreign place. Always trying to put different scenarios, somewhere else. It is like playing mind games. Happiness is reached through experience and experience through spending time with people whom you care for”.
Where is your mind now?
“Given the bad weather, my mind is in another place”. After asking to provide me with a detailed image description, George replied: “Pear trees, a beach, siting on a terrace having coffee in a teeshirt, this is what I see now”.
Any feelings attached to such images?
“When I am sad, it makes me sadder. But when I’m already happy, these images make me happier”.
How do you cope with negative emotions/attitudes/thoughts?
“I try to erase them but they are always there so you need to fight against them and weigh with the positive. It can be compared to a scale game”.
In few words, how would you conclude?
“Try to find your own oasis”.
Oasis? Mind travels? Orgasms? No responsibilities? Games? Exploration? These are few of the many words that can be picked from our long & yet interesting discussion.
Picture note: Taken the day after our coffee meeting. Mission: Free to choose how & where to take a picture & represent the concept of liveuphoria! Result <3! Thanks for agreeing to share your pictures & have our words & good moments published :)
Oasis and Opportunities: Afterthoughts & final remarks
So how does George “try to find his own oasis”? As he mentioned earlier: “happy thoughts, positive energy & being with people he cares” is a way for him to reach it, which he also refers to as an “orgasm of emotions”, more commonly known as happiness. He also adds by saying that happiness is “possible through exploration”. But exploration of what? Exploration of the world? Of the self? The 1st word that came to my mind: Wanderlust. According to the free online dictionary,
Wanderlust (n): A very strong or irresistible impulse to travel and explore the world
Does he seek to explore or does he have wanderlust? Not only does he speak about the happy benefits of exploration but my friend also refers to frequent mind traveling.“Even if I’m here now, I’m always in a foreign place”, it is like playing mind games”. Signs of wanderlust? Probably! We can further assume that he is representing wanderlust as the mind game, in which the winner is rewarded with happiness. But how many players are there in his game? Is he really the only player or could he playing against player #2: Reality?
Game for two?
“A time where one has no responsibilities, no worries” is how he describes one of the happiest moments in his life. Although chilhood memories vary from one person to another, we may all agree that we experienced one or many wonderful & playful times which we today label as great happy moments. Responsibilities & worries are part of our daily lives but they are hidden or absent when daydreaming. So the question now is: if he is defining his happiest moment as a time free from worries, can constant mind traveling be, to a certain extent, “escapelust”? How often, how far & how long can one truly leave or escape for?
When asked him how he felt about his mind vacations, George replied: “when I am sad, it makes me sadder. But when I’m already happy, these images make me happier”. It is interesting to see how his mind’s strong impulse to travel and explore the world may have positive & negative impacts on his feelings. Do feelings mark the departure &/or the arrival? Or could maybe his mental images be variables influencing the valence of his emotions? Let’s first see how he copes with his negative emotions. “I try to erase them but they are always there so you need to fight against them and weigh with the positive. It can be compared to a scale game”. Mind & Scale Games… Since his “scale game” consists of fighting against negative emotions & if we decide to see his “mind game”, as elaborated earlier, as the fight against reality, then can we go head & assume that reality makes him sad? After all, don’t we or wouldn’t we all enjoy escaping from reality by taking few weeks and even months of vacations?
The objective of this reflection is not to answer the questions but rather to ask more questions. In sum, even if every single one of us copes with negative circumstances & thoughts differently, the important thing is to find the healthy solution that works best for the self. I can assert that this 27 years old man has found his way. Who said daydreaming did us any wrong anyway? Daydreaming is similar to visualization. Both can motivate & lead to ambitions & determination to realize such images. I personally think that my long time friend George has found his oasis or his Zenith & today, he is taking the time, the risk, the opportunity to further explore, nurture & maintain it. Make the best out of your life journey, wishing you permanent oasis & beautiful opportunities. Have safe flights :)
Answers, comments & questions are welcomed!
What represents your own oasis?
How would you represent liveuphoria?
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